How to start the conversation

How to Start a Conversation About Mental Health

Talking about mental health isn’t always easy — but it can make a huge difference. Whether you’re worried about someone else or thinking about asking for help yourself, starting the conversation is often the hardest step.

You don’t need to have the right answers. You just need to be willing to listen.

If You’re Struggling Yourself

Asking for help is a sign of strength — not weakness. You deserve support.

Ways to ask for help

  • “I’m not doing great and I could use someone to talk to.”

  • “I’ve been struggling with my mental health and I need some support.”

  • “Can I talk to you about how I’ve been feeling?”

If speaking face-to-face feels too hard, you could:

  • Send a message or text

  • Write things down first

  • Reach out anonymously through a helpline or support service

If You’re Worried About Someone Else

Checking in on someone could change — or even save — a life. Trust your instinct. If something feels off, it’s okay to ask.

Simple ways to start the conversation

  • “How are you really doing?”

  • “You don’t seem yourself lately — do you want to talk?”

  • “I’ve noticed you’ve had a lot on your plate. How are things?”

  • “I’m here if you want to talk — no pressure.”

Tip: If they say they’re fine but it doesn’t feel right, don’t be afraid to ask again. That second “How are you?” often opens the door to an honest conversation.

How to Listen and Support

You don’t need to fix anything. What matters most is being present.

  • Listen without judgement or interruption

  • Let them talk at their own pace

  • Avoid giving advice unless they ask for it

  • Acknowledge how they’re feeling (“That sounds really tough”)

  • Thank them for trusting you

Sometimes just knowing someone cares is enough to help a person feel less alone

If the Conversation Feels Hard

That’s okay. These conversations can feel uncomfortable, especially at first.

  • Choose a quiet, private space if you can

  • Be patient. Silence is okay

  • It’s fine not to know what to say

  • If emotions run high, take a pause and come back to it later

What matters is that the conversation has started.

When Extra Support Is Needed

If someone is in immediate danger or at risk of harm:

  • Encourage them to seek urgent help

  • Contact emergency services if necessary

If you or someone else needs ongoing support, our services are here to help.